Look at that face!

Every time I look at that face, love is staring back at me!

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New Year, More Blogs!

Ok, I really sucked at this last year so in 2009, I will be more accountable for making the more postings in a timely manner. I hope that you enjoy my blogs and leave positive comments!

Peace & Blessings...

Mrs. Make It Happen

Using your resources is best when you are sick...

Many single mothers usually get tired and bogged down more often than a little bit. But, what do we do when we get sick? Who is going to take care of the kids? Are their needs going to be neglected or will they get the attention they deserve? Well in the past, every time I got sick it was like a death sentence. I was sick and unable to move and take care of myself. My poor little daughter would be unable to get Mommy's attention. As Mother's we all know that our kids need us the most when we are either sick and tired. So the long story short, I spent many instances just trying to make it through but now I am learning to use my resources.



Monday, I had the worst case of something. I thought I was going to die! Luckily, I have a good network of girlfriends who live in my same building. So, when I finally was able to make it home after I picked up my daughter from school, my girlfriend came over. I was so exhausted, and feeling awful... I just had to lay down. She helped my daughter with her homework, fed her dinner, gave her a bath and put her to bed for me. All I can say is Thank God! I was able to rest peacefully, without worrying about the needs of my daughter... and the best part about it was that it was ok.



Now, day two was even worst! As I got up and drove my daughter to school, I thought that it was going to be the day of my death sentence. After I dropped my daughter off I checked myself straight in the hospital. Boy was that the best decision for me and my sudden illness. Turns out, I had a case of the stomach flu. So in order to make sure that was all it was... they kept me a little longer than I expected. Instantly, panic set-in... how was I going to take care of myself and pick my daughter up from school. Thankfully, I was able to use my resources and call another parent of a child that goes to school with my daughter. Without any hesitation, she stated that she would pick her up. To ease the burden on me, she would keep her for me so I could get better. Now, for some this may be a lot to comprehend. But when you need help and support, using your resources are a great thing! You can get so much accomplished. The very next day, I was almost feeling back to my old self. My daughter was so happy, she got to hang out and have an overnight visit with a friend. She made it to school without incident and no one lost except for the Stomach Flu.



So, I guess my point is... accepting help from others is a good thing. Although, we may want to take the journey in life alone. Sometimes, the trip may be GREATER with others along.



Peace & Blessings...



Mrs. Make It Happen

I'm a Product of My Environment, what can I say?

My tale of single motherhood, didn't start six years ago when my daughter was born. It actually started about 22 years ago, when my own father past away when I was 5.

Now many folks may say that is such a sad thing-- a fatherless child at 5 but who knows what life would have been like with him. Being a small child is such a beautiful thing. I think of my daughter and her relationship with her father, that has been almost non-existent over her six years of being. However, I find it ever so amazing that she can pick up her relationship with him as if he is the greatest thing next to sliced bread. And to tell you the truth, despite how he churns my guts inside out... I think it is the best thing in the world to see the level of elation that she has all because she is with daddy.

Reminiscing back to my days with my father (from what I can remember) it was all happiness. I can remember painting daddy's nails while he was sleep, taking his change out of his pockets for my own newly discovered wealth, eating at McDonald's and of course my favorite burger joint that I still go to this day whenever I am in my hometown. The fondness that I had for my father is something that could never be replaced, no matter if he was good bad or indifferent-- he was still my daddy.

Now I am a product of the 80's and the concept of single motherhood was still fresh. Meaning most families were just what you saw on T.V., mom, dad, brother, sister, etc... The concept of Just Mommy & I was not as well received as it is today (or maybe not). I can remember as child wishing that my mother could be there for school events and other aspects of my life. I never thought she intentionally missed out on things, it wasn't until I had my own mommy gang initiation that I realized she wasn't too busy for me. She was just too busy trying to maintain life, itself... and I was her sacrifice.

So when I had my daughter, although her dad & I were living together at the time of her birth and almost until her 1st Birthday, I knew that we were not permanent fixtures. Meaning, we were bound to go our separate ways and I was repeating the history that I so wished was abolished in my own past--single motherhood.

On one hand, I wish, hope, and prayed that we could be a family... but would we be happy was the question. And happy we were not, was the answer. I always lived by the motto that if there was something I did not like about a situation--change it or move on. So, I moved on and didn't look back. I have traveled through many highs and lows, all on the strength that I am a proud mother. I choose not to let stereotypes and other misconceptions define me, and most important to me... I make sure that my daughter is priority #1 in my life, even if it means I have to change the game!

Welcome to The Chronicles of Single Motherhood

I thank you for taking an interest in my Blog, first and foremost. I would hope that all of you who are sincere and genuine will be inspired, and understand that the life of a single mother possess many challenges and rewards. I have made the choice to share my day-to-day events because I enjoy life and love being a single mom-- I wouldn't trade it for the world.

So hopefully, you will enjoy my stories, thoughts, etc... as much as I enjoy sharing.

BTW, and this MEANS YOU... please stop snooping and stalking me as for I deserve a life too....